Empathy Without Agreement

To achieve emotional empathy, we need to go further. The goal is to really share the other person`s feelings, which leads to a deeper bond. On the one hand, it takes time and effort to understand how and why others feel the way they do. Frankly, we are not prepared to invest those resources for too many people. And even if we`re motivated to show empathy, it`s not easy. There is so much more effective empathy, but these behaviours are a starting point. Effective empathy is not complicated, but it can be difficult. It takes a good framework and a lot of exercise. Even remembering to use only one of these tools can help if you need them most. Today, you get different definitions of empathy depending on who you ask. But most people would agree with some variants: empathy is the ability to understand and share the thoughts or feelings of another. If we refuse empathy, I do not think it is necessarily cruelty. I think the biggest barrier is the ego.

We fear compromising our opposing belief systems if we enter the world of someone who looks, thinks or lives differently. We suffer from choices, behaviours or lifestyles that we otherwise challenge. We lose part of our identity if we learn more about hers. To illustrate how these three branches of empathy work together, imagine that a friend recently lost a close family member. Their natural reaction can be compassion, a sense of compassion or sadness. Sympathy can prompt you to express your condolences or send a card – and your friend may appreciate these actions. Maybe you feel like I`m not here, even if that`s not my intention. I understand the biggest point you are making and, of course, I was not there to hear the words you actually said. But in a similar situation with colleagues standing, I suggest that it would be better to point out the positive use of resources that are best suited to the other, more important task – Jace suggests that the least qualified person was put into a poorer job – without me really agreeing that this was the case. That`s my value of 2 cents.

Compassionate empathy (also known as empathetic anxiety) goes beyond simply understanding others and sharing their feelings: it actually pushes us to take action, to help as we can. This is just one example of how empathy works, but every day will bring new ways to develop this property. In fact, every interaction you share with another person is a chance to see things from a different perspective, share their emotions and help. Because if we practice empathy, it`s not about us at all. I`m tired of the most emotional guys who always act so tyrannically in these situations, because when I`m dealing with thinkers, you can disagree, make corrections, share opinions and circulate things without worrying about them when a person is angry. Effective communication in times of disagreement begins with empathy. And in our couple therapy, working with our clients is one of the most important skills we highlight. Notice the two aspects of empathy: it`s not just about understanding someone else in our own head, it`s also about making sure the other person sees that we understand how we actually react.